Secrets and lies have a way of catching up with people. That’s nothing new, but it’s incredible how some people seem to go through their lives constantly balancing on a raft of dishonesty. There are varying degrees of dishonesty and they serve different purposes. My brother, for example, spends his life hiding behind a veil of ‘lies by omission’ and he does it to protect himself from having to deal with the reality of the choices he has made.
Life doesn’t need to be complicated. Sometimes things happen and when they do, you need to pick up the pieces and move on. Take responsible action and don’t try and gloss over things. People are very forgiving creatures, but there is only so much anyone will take if you don’t show them the respect they feel they deserve.
For a long time I’ve watched my brother struggle with transparency. He seems to think that if he skirts around the truth and avoids talking about things that they will just go away. I suppose that is probably true of some things. But not others. He’s currently in a whole world of hurt because of his decision to keep a very big secret. It got out, as secrets always do and I suggested that he came clean to all involved before things got out of hand. He said he would. He didn’t. Now he’s lost the girl he loves and it’s broken his heart.
It’s a shame because he’s a phenomenal guy and he has so much to offer, he just needs to realise that in order for a team to function well, all the members have to know what’s going on.
I love you my brother. I’m sorry for your loss but something had to break in order for you to mend.