…to a certain extent, but I find it interesting that in the last 50 years the way men behave (and the way women expect them to behave) has changed so markedly.
I find myself growing up as part of a generation of women who want to be treated as equals by their male peers, and with “the respect we deserve”, yet as much as we moan about the idiots on the construction sites that wolf whistle, every one of those whistles gives us a secret feeling of pleasure.
I suppose my point here is that we women are full of double standards. We like to be seen as strong, but also vulnerable. We like to be powerful, but looked after. We like to be respected, but coveted. We like to be attractive, but we want it on our own terms.
I was prompted to write this entry by a thread in SitePoint yesterday. I have been taking advice on relationships from two very wise men. They were speaking candidly about how much they love and respect their wives. It was refreshing to listen to men who feel that talking openly about their feelings isn’t going to compromise their masculinity.
As a general rule, I don’t like men who behave “like girls” (that’s not to say that they shouldn’t cry – it should just be in the right circumstances), but I am irritated by men that feel that talking about feelings is effeminate. Men have feelings too.
I like my men hard, but I like them honest.
**Note: I apologise to any woman who takes offence at my speaking like this on their behalf.